It has come to my attention that not everyone appreciates being written about. Even if I keep identities anonymous. Even if we have zero friends in common. Even if the post is actually pretty nice.
OK, fine. But I'm going to need a little guidance here.
It's not like I'm trying to be Page Six. I'm not out to broadcast the private lives of people I know. I write about my own experiences, and, since I am a social human being, they usually involve other people. That said, I never, ever use real names or identifying details. I am of the opinion that my posts always come from a desire to further understand a situation or theme in a comprehensive, but compassionate way. I'm inspired by the interactions, dilemmas, and--yes--occasional upset that ensues with real people in my life, and sometimes feel overcome by the deep urge to put it in writing. I admittedly love the rush of writing about something that charges me, and do want to keep it real, but I don't like hurting anyone's feelings.
It makes me wonder though--at some point, do I have to choose between a person and a post? In the most recent incident of this (oops, there I go writing about real things that happened to me again), I was somewhat shocked to realize that I would rather have the thoughtfully (and, I thought, quite kindly)-written post than retain a half-hearted friendship with the person it offended. Upon prolonged consideration, I realized that, at the end of the day, I would resent myself if I took it down simply to appease this person (notice how I didn't use a pronoun there, so as not to give away any trace of identity?). But I realize I can't just go around writing things that are going to piss people off. I thought I had a pretty good sense of what is and isn't OK, but it's definitely possible that I don't.
So help me out here, readers, other bloggers, Mom. Do I need to simply get comfortable with the fact that sometimes people won't like being the subject or inspiration of my online musings? Do I need to be able to calmly tell them, "I'm sorry you feel that way but I'm not taking the post down." Or are there drama-preventing measures I could be taking but have somehow missed?